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Joyce Maxine Brown a Summer 2021 Tribute by Keith “Buster”
Torkelson MS |
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Google Blogger |
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Blog |
The Torkel Saga 2059 |
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150 |
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Date Published |
September 27, 2021 (M) |
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Author |
Keith “Buster” Torkelson MS |
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Avey C Asus |
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Virtual memorials In lieu of actual ceremony Rapid Closure Process (RCP) |
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Digital Preservation |
Yes |
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Integration |
Joan Zhorne = Buster’s Most Significant Other Ever |
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Twitter related |
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Magnus EMe |
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Last Reviewed: 20210919-SUN:
Wednesday, September 29, 2021
Casebook Family Brown Clan 2021 featuring Caden by Keith Torkelson
https://the-torkel-saga-2059.blogspot.com/2021/09/casebook-family-brown-clan-2021.html
Purpose – Determine if succession is possible for both Joan and Aunt Joyce. There are about 10 pages before the photo gallery. There will be one child born to carry on.
Structured Temporal Reconciliation (STR)
Key Events – Approximate Order – Since Family Fallout
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2011 and 2012 Introduce Joan to Aunt Joyce (AJ) |
Hopes that the two can bond AJ repeatedly points out Joan’s forgetfulness |
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Last time AJ drives Buster in her car |
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Joan Falls and Forgets |
Daughter from Colorado comes to CA and rescues Joan |
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Phone calls to Joan |
Some of our best |
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Buster gets his CDL re-instated |
2016 |
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Buster gets family car back |
2016 |
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No more Joan phone pickup |
No response by mail either |
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AJ breaks hip |
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AJ falls and smashes head |
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Corona divide |
AJ’s daughter separates Buster and AJ for the final time |
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Good conversations |
End between Buster and AJ |
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Phone Messages |
AJ calls Buster about once per month and leaves voice mail
messages |
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Family Announcement |
December 2020 AJ passes away in her home |
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No Ceremony or Services |
More than 9 months have passed |
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Publish Part I |
20210929-W |
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Last Reviewed: 20210927-M: AJ = Aunt Joyce
Integration with Joan
During 2005 Buster lived with his most significant other ever (MSOE) Joan. At one point she typed out pertinent emergency information. On the list she included her daughter Tonya. We included the address as listed because Tonya has since moved. Sometime circa 2017 Joan was rescued by her daughter Tonya. Tonya living in Colorado took Joan in and tried to help Joan. We will address more about Joan at a later time.
Most Significant Other Ever (MSOE)
970-690-7937 – CELL
2300 WEST COUNTY ROAD 38E
# 15A
FT. COLLEGE, CO 80526
We only grieve in depth about
four or so peoples. These people are
Craig Edward Torkelson, June Elizabeth Torkelson, George Gerald Torkelson, Joan
Zhorne and Joyce Maxine Brown. In the
future we will probably grieve only Lanaii Annette Kline. Buster is highly dependent on Lanaii. The majority of what Joyce (Aunt Joyce)
offered Buster over the past eight years or so is not replaceable. She freely gave or provided for the following:
Monetary gifts, cooking facilities, special meals, cigarette subsidies, memories,
and a high degree of family therapeutic value (ETV). Buster did his best to avoid dependency about
his Aunt Joyce. In hindsight Buster
somehow did not become dependent on his Aunt Joyce’s subsidies or
facilities. Most of the cash gifts from
2020 we did not include in monthly spending rather we have saved for when
Buster needs to purchase a new Smart Phone.
Buster’s Aunt Joyce (AJ) would approve of buying either a Smart Phone or
Tablet. Between 2012 and 2020 AJ made
good use of her Tablet.
January
30, 2017 (M)
On January 30, 2017 a Monday, Buster stopped by to visit with his mom’s younger sister Joyce in Joyce’s home on Mc Daniel Dr in Garden Grove California. As he made his way through her haunts: Backyard table, garage smoking area, dining room and finally the family room he noticed how quiet it all was. He found his Aunt sleeping in her family room “chair”. She looked as if she had passed yet Buster could see a bit of movement in her chest. She had often said if I am sleeping when you come wake me up. Buster sat a few minutes falling sad then decided to let her sleep. On that day Buster passed through Denial that his Aunt Joyce would die soon.
How
is it Manor Care?
Back in 1998 Keith “Buster” Torkelson’s mother June Elizabeth Stoutenburg-Torkelson passed away in the Manor Care Facility in Fountain Valley California. June is Joyce Maxine Stoutenburg-Brown’s (Aunt Joyce’s) only and older sister. They were on and off rather close particularly due to the fact that they were small business owner partners. For some switch of fate Buster’s commuting takes him by Manor Care on a regular basis. On and off Buster stops by Manor Care to park in the shade and get some computer work done. Sometimes he processes with his mom. Before Aunt Joyce (AJ) passed away Buster determined that he needed a better place to process both mom and his aunt. Buster decided on the parking lot of Fountain Bowl (bowling alley) since he his mom and AJ have fond memories of bowling.
In
2012 Buster had a terrible year. We call
it a year of Catastrophic Losses. When
he was in the hospital he only had one family vistor. That would be Aunt Joyce. She came at least twice. Each time she said I brought you a pack of
cigarettes. Over two visits that would
equal a total of two packs of cigarettes.
When Buster was getting released they had trouble finding the two milk
crates that Buster had brought with him.
Finally they decipherd the admit nurses scribbles. They found Buster’s crates and to his
surprise there were two cartoons of cigarettes.
When Buster hit the streets again he had no money, no car, no access to
storage, no bus pass, the wrong medication, and no permanent GoodBed. He found he could sell a pack of cigarettes
for $5 each and get going day by day.
Thanks you Aunt Joyce Buster got started. So when Buster learned that Aunt Joyce had
fallen, broken her hip, and in the hospital he was blessed with the chance to
return the favor.
Stayed - 2012 Details
Metadata > 08_PEI_Catastrophic_Loss_16091002_Contents
V2021
Lobster
Day – Age 89 – Buster’s Birthday 2015
Buster
had been estranged from much of his family for several years by 2012. When finally reconnected with his Aunt Joyce
she was still quite functional and independent.
Between 2012 and 2015 Buster’s aunt gave Buster and sometimes Joan rides
in her car. The trip recorded in the
photograph above was most likely associated with Buster’s birthday in
March. Aunt Joyce took Buster to all you
can eat Lobster at the Red Lobster. This
was most likely the last trip in the car when she drove. At later times AJ said Buster could drive her
in her car. Buster said no because he
didn’t want anything to go wrong. So
Buster and sometimes Joan made the best of things meeting up at AJ’s
house. It was safer that way. Buster is a worrywort and is treated for
Anxiety Disorder.
Friday’s with Joyce
Somewhere around circa 2000
Buster was in the Secondary Teacher Education Program (SETP) at California
State University @ Fullerton. Content
Area Literacy was a required course.
Buster’s teacher was Lynda E. Randall.
Buster grew a lot in general and specifically with reading and writing
during the course. He earned an A grade. For pretty much each class session Dr.
Randall would read from a book called Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young
Man, and Life's Greatest Lesson written by Mitch Albom. The book discussed the “meaning of life and
life's most important lessons”. On the
last day of class doctor Randall gifted her copy of “Tuesdays” to Buster. She also said in front of the class that Buster
DBA Keith Torkelson is “Brilliant”.
Buster prefers to be called Unusual.
Featuring Doctor Lynda E. Randall (LER)
Keith “Buster” Torkelson’s record for LER’s course
Sample
Exhibit about Educational Performance
Keith
“Buster” Torkelson MS
Buster’s
Aunt Joyce gave him a Failing about his education. He would bring documents such as course
performance and transcripts to try to help her see the reality.
On Succession
We will discuss the processes of
succession later. Yet, when a
significant other passes and or leaves Buster we try to open a new door. When Buster’s mom passed it was Joan his Most
Significant Other Ever (MSOE) that filled the gap. Actually Buster spent more time with Joan
than any other in his adult life. Aunt
Joyce and Buster talked much about family.
Thus it would take family to fill the void. Just this year 2021 Buster’s niece indicated
that she wants to talk more. So in a
manner she will begin to fill the void left by Aunt Joyce. One person cannot take the place of Buster’s
Aunt Joyce.
Immediate Response
Buster’s Aunt Joyce AKA Joyce
Maxine Brown (JMB) died sort of suddenly around December 21, 2020. He decided to memorialize her via his
Facebook. He thought it best to get it
done before Christmas 2020. He gathered
a JMB centered image pod. We published
on using Facebook December, 23, 2020 (W).
Longevity: Joyce Maxine Stoutenburg-Brown (1925_0529 Minnesota – 2020_1221
California). We shared about 35 images
in memory of JMB. The Christmas that
followed was Buster’s and many others’ first Christmas without JMB alive. All but one of the people that saw our JMB
centered Facebook post appreciated it. RIP
Love Keith Edward :0(
Tribute with JMB
Source >
09_Program_JMB_14042501_Centered v2020
20201227-SUN: Defying the Tenets
of Health - A Tribute 2 JMB
Window of Life: May 29, 1925 – December 21, 2020
Afternoon of December 21, 2020
Keith “Buster” Torkelson’s nearest aunt died in her home at the age of 95. In her old age she defied the tenets or
beliefs and principles of health. In the
last five years other than taking life sustaining medications she fell and
broke her hip. Some of the family didn’t
think she would return home. Then later
she fell and received a nasty head injury.
Once again she managed to return home.
One risk she took not associated with age was she smoked
cigarettes. The reason she said they were
less harmful for her is that she “didn’t inhale”. In May of 2020 due to Corona concerns for all
practical purposes “Buster” could not see her close up anymore. This is significant because basically Aunt
Joyce was deaf. The distance cancelled
any high quality communication.
History That Deserves Remembering
“Buster” and Joyce separated on
good terms. One of her final wishes was
that “Buster” not be sad over her passing.
Actually that would mean not to get too sad – who in the world could not
get sad over the loss of such a significant other. As she said: “We did well Keith Edward”. This paragraph and photos are tributes to
“Buster’s” beloved aunt – Joyce Maxine Stoutenburg-Brown. She leaves two children, two grandchildren,
and two great-grandchildren. When she
passed at age 95 she was the longest lived in the Stoutenburg (Matriarch),
Brown (Patriarch) or Torkelson (Patriarch) lines. “Buster’s” grandfather Torkelson lived until
age 94. Her service has yet to come.
“Buster” definitely would only read excerpts from this at his Aunt
Joyce’s funeral. Aunt Joyce is “History
that deserves to not be forgotten” (Avey C Asus, 2020)
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Healing her broken hip – Skilled
Nursing Facility
2015 December
On the mend for her broken hip
Aunt Joyce (AJ) was placed in Coventry Court on Euclid Street in Garden
Grove. They had a plan to keep her for a
while for physical therapy. At one point
she said I can do this at home. She basically
released herself. She reported as she
was headed out the door they rushed to execute a release of liability
form. Buster is rather gloomy when it
comes to hospitalization. He figured she
would be residing at Coventry for quite some time. AJ was correct when she got home she was back
to her activities of daily living.
Centered about Keith “Buster” Torkelson MS and his Aunt Joyce
Circa 2012-2020
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2021 0929 (W) ETV |
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Business |
Unravelling the losses |
0.75 |
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Education (Timeline) |
Declares Buster a failure |
0.50 |
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Housing |
Rent a shared room environment and operations |
0.75 |
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Intimacy |
Helped Joan and Buster have private time together |
1.00 |
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Joan |
Helped us understand Joan from a different perspective |
1.00 |
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Medication Management |
Had things in common she actually to more Meds than Buster |
0.75 |
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Nutrition |
Some awesome and memorable meals |
1.00 |
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People and relatives |
Without her we probably would not have visited with as
many relatives |
0.75 |
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Recovery – SUDs |
After the crash of 2012 Buster quit drinking alcohol SUD meetings with Joyce |
1.00 |
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Subsidies |
Successful Buster avoided dependence on her gifts |
1.00 |
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Time Spent |
Up to 4 hours per session |
1.00 |
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Volunteering |
Tried to explain what Buster does/did for the OCHCA |
0.25 |
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Work (Timeline) |
Considers Buster a failure at work |
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CALC |
=10.00/13 |
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Family Therapy Earned Therapeutic
Value (ETV) Score = |
76.9% |
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Date Scored: 20210929-W: ETV = Earned Therapeutic Value
Laura Adams V Joyce
Metadata > 06_Profile_Laura_Adams_18030101_Notes
V2021
Laura Adams, PsyD & MFT
How is it that Time Spent with
Joyce was more effective than Time Spent with Laura Adams. In both instances Buster needed support
solving problems. He also needed to know
when his coping methods were exhausted and he needed to ask for help. The help needed to be effective. Where Buster would spend 50 minutes with
Laura he would spend three hours with his Aunt Joyce. Together Joyce and Buster solved many problems,
whereas Laura and Buster made little progress.
At the time Laura was engaged with psychodynamic therapy. Near the end of the session she would tell
Buster that he was not doing things right.
We will cover more about Laura Adams at the time MFT in the next
installment.
Image Gallery
Some Odd 150 Images
Appendix
Structured Temporal Reconciliation (STR)
About STR
Jumping around the timeline
Repeating things
Appendix @ The End
Centered about the last year 2020 – First Half
Nexus = Final Visits
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Visit |
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20200204 |
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Visit |
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Aside |
CDB treats to Red Lobster |
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20200312 |
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Visit |
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20200319 |
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Major Milestone Smelt day |
Joy forcibly separates Buster and JMB Our last good talk with JMB |
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No April visit |
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20200528 |
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Visit |
She shares some final wishes and reverse gift In general not to be sad Buster probably cried |
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20200529 |
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Birthday |
She turns 95 |
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Last Reviewed: 20210928-TU: JMB = Joyce Maxine Brown: AJ =
Aunt Joyce
Centered about the last year 2020 – First Half
Nexus = Passing
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Call notation |
Uncertain |
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She calls |
Set up visit |
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Visit at a distance |
With her hard of hearing we really didn’t understand each
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Visit |
At a distance Gift = $140 |
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SUN |
She calls |
Set up visit |
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20201012 |
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Visit |
Gift = $100 tell her it is towards a new phone |
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Gives us Thanksgiving gift |
Saved toward new Smart Phone Gift $100 toward new phone |
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No see – drop off calendar |
Buster gives her a wall calendar every year for Christmas |
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Passes |
Date of DEATH uncertain |
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Death announcement comes |
News from CDB via voice mail |
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Immediate memorial |
Buster decided to publish JMB photos to FB |
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Claudia vents anger on us |
Make hope list |
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Christmas minimal |
No attend Brown Christmas Kline Hangout X-mas |
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Facebook Share |
Remembering JMB Most like it yet Claudia dumps on Buster |
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Last Reviewed: 20210928-TU: JMB = Joyce Maxine Brown: AJ =
Aunt Joyce
Centered about the last year 2020 – First Half
Nexus = Passing
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Buster’s birthday |
First Buster birthday without AJ |
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JMB’s birthday |
First AJ birthday without her |
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Family inquiry |
Service and family business status |
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20210927 |
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Begin Closure |
Still no funeral or services |
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20210929 |
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Publish |
Part I of possibly III |
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Last Reviewed: 20210928-TU: JMB = Joyce Maxine Brown: AJ =
Aunt Joyce
Things Held Over
Position on family subsidies
Position on family visitations
STR about a single encounter
Metadata > 04_Family_JMB_STR_20091102_Timelines V2021
Mistaken Beliefs
Most Significant Other Ever (MSOE)
And more…
Summary
Is the end just a new beginning?
Will I ever see you again?
